People Pleaser

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Yes, you are kind and respectful to others. Yes, you care about their feeling. Yes, you try to make them happy with your efforts. There is nothing bad in it. . But what if your this habit becomes obsession. And that destroys your own self-esteem and mental health. Starting from frustration, to feeling helpless in expressing on thoughts and opinion. It all happens when you ignore your own happiness for people. Be kind always to people but not at cost of your own self-esteem. Set boundaries and stick to them, that's a fair deal. Moreover, you don't need to prove your worthiness to every person. We can't satisfy all of them. So it's good to set the boundaries and never drop the head.
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Sooooo nice !!! Danger X

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It’s 11 pm and you’re about to fall asleep because you’ve to wake up early. a friend calls and you spend the next two hours listening to them rant. You do it because you consider them friends. You’re someone who puts everyone else before yourself.

There’s little kindness in the world, you know, but you need to be gentle towards yourself, too. You’ve friends who call you only when they need you, and then, they disappear for days and weeks. You’ve friends who take your kindness for granted. You never really learnt to say no to others. You are a part of their every moment, and even they know, you’re always going to be around.

You have days when your best friend leaves your text on read. Your parents don’t ask you if you are okay. You have days when it felt like the people who were supposed to understand you the most, didn’t. On days like these, I hope you remember to be kinder to yourself.

Being good to others doesn’t mean that others will be good to you, too. You know that and you’re good to them anyway. You believe that someone has to be good. You might be the one who always keep on forgiving others, because, you prioritize that person more than what they did.  


You must posses good qualities but when it exceeds, you'd fall into trenches. Being "too much" available, being "too much" lovable, being "too much" caring, being "too much" open - minded, being "too much" dependable....................................... all these "too much" addictions are as problematic as being too much addicted to alcohol; injurious to both physical and mental well- being.

The thing is, "too much" hurts too much. 

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