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People Pleaser

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Yes, you are kind and respectful to others. Yes, you care about their feeling. Yes, you try to make them happy with your efforts. There is nothing bad in it. . But what if your this habit becomes obsession. And that destroys your own self-esteem and mental health. Starting from frustration, to feeling helpless in expressing on thoughts and opinion. It all happens when you ignore your own happiness for people. Be kind always to people but not at cost of your own self-esteem. Set boundaries and stick to them, that's a fair deal. Moreover, you don't need to prove your worthiness to every person. We can't satisfy all of them. So it's good to set the boundaries and never drop the head.

Hey Emotions !

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Studies have shown that suppressing emotions actually endangers our health and well-being, both physically and psychologically. How to regulate your emotions: ➡️ Feel the feeling in real time. ➡️ Identify what you are feeling. ➡️ Accept your emotions. On one level, emotions are like energy waves, varying in shape and intensity, just like ocean waves. Their nature is to arise and pass away pretty quickly, like all natural phenomena. ➡️ Breathe: Slow down. Deep breathing exercises can help to ground ourselves and take a step back. ➡️ Journaling: Write down your feelings. Ask yourself what these feelings are telling you? ➡️ Find a way to express the feeling safely. Cry, scream, dance... What would you like to add to the list? Repressing the emotion doesn’t make the emotion go away, it just stays inside us causing more pain. So,

Forgive; Even if they don't apologize!

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Forgiveness is peace more than bunch of words. Yes, sometimes it's hard to forgive, near to impossible. No matter how much we assure ourselves of coming out of that incident, it still haunt us. You could blur it but you can never remove it(unless and until you forgive that person). Let me tell you 5 ways to forgive someone who didn't apologize Yes they won't apologize but that's their character and values. You never have to forgive for them but for your own peace. Believe me, forgiveness brings peace...it's just like something thrown to trash bin to never revive again. Eventually it make your will and character stronger. It gives you power and reason to move on. Forgiveness never meant "let's start again" but it does mean "we're done with all good and 'bad' memories". Good Luck !

It's OK

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Many of us still be feeling anxious, because fear causes anxiety. Plus we are slightly coming out of an anxious period which means our minds & body's will still be trying to recover from all the major stress we all went through when, our countries had a wave of covid, went into restrictions, had to home school & work (I mean what in the world!) Couldn't see friends & family etc. We don't just wake up the next day & brush all that off like it was nothing. It was something, it was & is still a time not for the benefit of our mental health so you are allowed to still feel upset, stressed coping & anxious. Just like when restrictions started & you might have felt like you were trapped now, it took time to adjust to that new way, coming out of that can feel the same, but try to grab the freedom it will feel OK again soon. You may not feel like going to work or socialising, & that's normal because it will feel new, but humans need interaction,

Ghosting???

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For something that’s so deeply scarring and hurtful, ghosting is way too common a phenomenon in today’s culture. It exists in more contexts than dating and in most scenarios, saying something is better than saying nothing at all. Try not to be a ghosting person. So let me help you with some examples. 1. I think you're lovely but I don't feel a connection. Thanks for your time. 2. I have a lot gong on in my life right now and I'm not able to prioritize our relationship. 3. It's been great getting to know you but I don't think our values align. I hope you understand. 4. I guess this isn't working out so let's stop trying. 5. I don't want any further contact with you. Please respect my decision. 6. I have stated my boundaries repeatedly and I don't feel like you respect them enough. It's best we stop talking. It is usually best to keep your reasons for cutting off contact short, clear and kind. However, you don’t owe everyone an explanation, especia

7 Types of Rest, we need !

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Taking rest is as important as our work. I am not sure whether you all know the seven different types of rest that we need.  So, here we go....... 1. CREATIVE REST Time away from work to creatively motivate and inspire you. 2. MENTAL REST Rest that helps you feel less overwhelmed, improves concentration and helps you make better decisions.  3. PHYSICAL REST Rest that repairs and relieves your body aches, tension and helps you sleep better. 4. SOCIAL REST Spending time with people "you value" and relationships that "uplift your spirit." 5. EMOTIONAL REST The ability to be vulnerable, express your deepest emotions, process your feelings and emotionally unload.  6. SENSORY REST Taking a break from digital devices, mental chatter and constant external stimuli. 7. SPIRITUAL REST Engaging in activities that ground you, provide a sense of belonging and make you feel like a part of something greater.  Go for a rest whenever you feel tired and its needed. Taking rest or brea

Possibilities; ask for !

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 I hate feeling like a burden and I think of all the things that could go wrong. So, I end up taking on most of my struggles on my own. The more I think about it, the more I realise how many times I have shut myself down and blocked myself off from possibilities.  Things may have gotten better, they may have gotten worse: But either way, there is nothing wrong with asking!  When I was a kid, I asked my family if we could get a dog and they weren't having that so...you know I mean it could be a yes or a no, but creating the space for a YES is more than enough reason to try.  So, if you want something, just ask for it. Why should you hesitate? If you don't ask, there is no chance to succeed. Always keep your mind open to possibilities, they are closer than you think ! What do you think?  Good Luck 

O ! H ! I !

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Overthinking......................... Hesitation...................... Insecurities.................. These three culprits have taken so much from us, either it's beautiful moments or our mental health. The problem could be so small may be never exist, but these are three culprits who make them look big. I would request you to stay away from them, think differently and look at the big picture. Life is too short for these baseless headaches. Find out all those unnecessary insecurities (don't run away from them), and understand there actual value in your life ( which will be 0 or very less). And yes at the end pluck them out. You deserve to freed from all those meaningless thoughts. So, what to do????  Here it is

Improve your mood

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 Let's accept this, time could be overwhelming. It's not easy to stay positive all the time. When negative events occur and negative thoughts follow, we may veer towards self-sabotaging behaviors. If you can quickly improve your mood you can prevent yourself from going down the path of self-sabotaging. What activity brings you joy?? 1. DO SOMETHING CREATIVE 2. GET PHYSICAL  3. CONNECT WITH SOMEONE 4. SELF CARE 5. DECLUTTER 6. CENTER YOURSELF Remember , "The most courageous decision that you can make every day is to be in a good mood"