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People Pleaser

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Yes, you are kind and respectful to others. Yes, you care about their feeling. Yes, you try to make them happy with your efforts. There is nothing bad in it. . But what if your this habit becomes obsession. And that destroys your own self-esteem and mental health. Starting from frustration, to feeling helpless in expressing on thoughts and opinion. It all happens when you ignore your own happiness for people. Be kind always to people but not at cost of your own self-esteem. Set boundaries and stick to them, that's a fair deal. Moreover, you don't need to prove your worthiness to every person. We can't satisfy all of them. So it's good to set the boundaries and never drop the head.

Raise your words, not your voice !

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 This quote is by Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi, a Persian poet. It means that one should not raise voice and use bad words no matter how tense the situation is. Instead, raise the impact of your words, let them have meaning and let them refelect you so that it fills up others heart with love, not hatred ! We’ve all had heated discussions or arguments where voices were raised or have had moments where we yell at our friends, a family member or our kid. But if you look back at those times, did the yelling actually accomplish anything? Do you think you got your point across to the other person? Were you able to get the result you were looking for? From my experience, I am going to guess that the answer is no. All you do when you raise your voice is get the other person to stop listening to you. Everything you say from the “raised voice point” or the “yelling point” forward is just falling upon deaf ears. Take the polite way, and choose your words and temper wisely. Raise won't solve you

Types of people in your WhatsApp Groups

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 Ahhh Whatsapp. How on Earth did social groups get by before this marvel of communication?  Most of us belong to at least one group, usually falling into the fairly standard categories of 'Family', 'Friends' and the dreaded 'Work' chat. Then these usually get split into even more sub-categories, such as 'Brother Only', "Cousinz Underworld" etc etc... We all have a role to play in these group chats, from the person who thinks they're funnier than they actually are (we don't wish that curse on anyone), to the creeper in the background who hasn't actually participate in the chat, eh, ever. Lets check out different types of people you will find on each whatsapp groups 1. The invisible lurker   They read everything – you know they do, you can see those little blue ticks, yet they NEVER REPLY.  They probably register their opinions onto their own mind and think like "why should I reply?" Why bother?  2. The person who keeps leav

Types of WhatsApp Groups we have !

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  WhatsApp is very much a part of our daily routines. In fact, according to a website, WhatsApp is the most used Android app in India. So, I’m guessing by now you know how invested we are in it. But if there is one thing that is slightly annoying about using the app, it’s the numerous WhatsApp groups we all are a part of! Don’t deny it, you’re secretly thinking the same thing too. And if you’re a private person, you would have most probably disabled your ‘Last Seen’ and your ‘Read Receipts’, but that doesn’t apply to groups. So, sit back and get ready to relate to everything I’m about to say here. Okay, here we go! 1. THE QUINTESSENTIAL FAMILY GROUPS This is an obvious one. Every one of us will have at least 3–4 groups dedicated to just family. A group that has all your immediate family members. (Parents+Siblings) A group with all the family members on your mother’s side. A group with all the family members on your father’s side. A group generically called ‘Cousins’. Any family group w

What Do You Do When No One Is Watching You?

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 We’ve All Been There It’s easy, so easy, to take a look around and see that no one is watching you. So maybe you smoke a cigarette or watch that episode on Netflix instead of responding to that email. When we’re out of the eyes of society it feels as though nothing counts. Similar to that old saying, if a tree falls in the forest and no one was there, did it make a noise? Did it really happen? The answer is yes. Life doesn’t just happen when you’re around other people. Life keeps going even after you post that Instagram story. Life is happening even while you read this, whether you’re alone or not. It’s the choices you make while you’re alone that will define who you become. The choices you made a year ago is the reason for where you are in life today. You should be your reason to start the habits you need in order to change your life. More importantly, you need to do new habits when no one is watching. Blow others away with the magnificence you cultivated out of sight. See what you’r

Question mark ???? The UnCeRtAiNtY pRiNcIpLe

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 "..... It was all going good. She was happy with her life. Her life which wasn’t really eventful. It was guided by a routine — wake up in the morning, household work, office work, back to home, have dinner and sleep. Pretty much a life which everyone of us experiences. She has been into this routine from last 4 years. Nothing changed much except couple of holidays and a job change. New job too became a routine for her in a month. Now its been two years, she was stable in her job and family front too was at peace. Life was absolutely stable. Never did she complain about anything or ask for anything more or anything less. Then the time changed. One day, she was asked to leave from the office. The management decided to cut down on human resources for some reason which employees never came to know. She cold just speculate but there wasn’t any stated reason. May be she could have figured it out discussing with the management but it would not have benefited as the management’s decision

Life is full of opportunities !

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It is extremely important to be aware of the opportunities presented to us on a frequent basis. Each and every choice we are presented with is an opportunity to make our lives better or worse; to do the right thing or the wrong thing. We are constantly bombarded with small opportunities that will help us achieve great things. Unfortunately we often talk about the big opportunities and we forget that, the little opportunities really add up. It is important to train ourselves to be able to recognize opportunity, to get used to making the most out of the little opportunities presented to us on a daily basis. It is only once we are adept at making the most out of even the smallest of opportunities that we become able to make the most of larger opportunities. I live in an ocean of opportunity and I want you to live here with me. Each and every day you swim in an ocean of opportunities! Let us take for example the opportunity to make healthy choices. It starts at the supermarket where we buy

Types of lockdown people; we all(mostly) changed !

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While the last few months have certainly been a challenge, we have all done our best to fill time and stay cheerful in any way we can. Throughout the time in lockdown, many of us have chosen to discover and nurture new hobbies. Others have chosen to let loose, and make the most of this free relaxation time. There are, apparently, a few who have (somehow) managed to actually be productive and catch up on work, but I think that one might be an urban myth. What is certain, however, is that whether we like it or not, all of us have turned into one or more of the following people at some point during our time in lockdown. Lets check out types of lockdown people !!!!!! 1. “Coronavirus conspiracy theory revealed!” - The WhatsApp forwarder  πŸ‘€ It stopped being funny in 2012! Fake news is genuinely a massive problem across countries and is attempting to not only poison public discourse, but entirely take over our moral compass. With people being lynched over false WhatsApp rumors, to riots bein

Think in the blanks !

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Sometimes, you may be ask yourself, “What would be my answer for this question?” But it can be hard to think of these things on the spot. Here are some questions and prompts you can keep in your back pocket for the next time you’re asked.So, no more straining your mind trying to think of something to say about yourself.  No need to write, just think. It may take 2 minutes only😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 1.The thing I love most about me is my ________😊 2.I’m practically addicted to _________😐 3.The famous person who inspires me most is _____________😍 4.The most embarrassing thing ever happen to me was ____________😭 5.The achievement I am most proud of is __________ 6.I am ready to live rest of my life eating ____________ food item onlyπŸ˜› 7.The best advice I ever received was ____________πŸ‘€ 8.If I had 1 hour to live, I’d spend it _________😎 9.My first thought when I wake up in the morning is normally _________πŸ’ž 10.If I could live in any other era of history, it would be ________ because ___

Reconnecting with an old friend

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Do you remember the days when you used to talk and laugh for hours sitting with your best friends in an empty classroom? There were almost endless things to talk about, and time flew by as you chatted together. But, when was the last time you had a long talk with that old friend of yours? If it’s been quite a while, read on! Everyone’s busy. Due to hectic schedules, life changes, big moves, and more, people often lose touch with their pals. We know talking to an old friend after a long time feels overwhelming, and a lot of people want to reconnect but it isn’t happening.  The reality is that people find it a bit awkward to get back in touch with their friend if they haven’t spoken for a while. Although you have a temptation to talk to your friend, you might worry about how to start a conversation. To help you out, here are some conversation starters to help you reconnect. Start with something simple Let’s make it simple and direct. After all, you were good friends once - and you can be