People Pleaser

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Yes, you are kind and respectful to others. Yes, you care about their feeling. Yes, you try to make them happy with your efforts. There is nothing bad in it. . But what if your this habit becomes obsession. And that destroys your own self-esteem and mental health. Starting from frustration, to feeling helpless in expressing on thoughts and opinion. It all happens when you ignore your own happiness for people. Be kind always to people but not at cost of your own self-esteem. Set boundaries and stick to them, that's a fair deal. Moreover, you don't need to prove your worthiness to every person. We can't satisfy all of them. So it's good to set the boundaries and never drop the head.
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Be Kind To Your Mind

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If you find that your ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜๐˜€ are like....."I should be doing more " and ....๐Ÿ‘‡

  • "I can't rest"
  • "I'll never find love"
  • "I have to be strong all the time"
  • "There is something wrong with me"
  • "Everyone, they're all the same"
  • "There is no point"
  • "Nothing I do will matter"
  • "Nothing changes, nothing will change"
  • "I'll do that thing I want to do later"

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๐ŸŒฑThese are just a few of the thousands of thoughts that we could be experiencing, that are normal, but do not help us. They come from somewhere for sure, past experiences, the way you viewed that situation with the limited information you had at the time. From other's beliefs, words, actions.

But, they don't help you, and are limiting, will stop you acting in your best interests, will stop you from  connecting, cause negative feelings & behavior that would probably cause more of the same.


๐ŸŒฑI strongly believes that our thoughts are learnt, so that we can intervene & rewrite them.

So if you find that you are having a negative critical thought, you can speak back to it, 

  • "I'm not sure where this comes from but its not helping me."
  • "I want.(positive outcome) to change where I live"
  • "I am open to it"
  • "I will work in what I am in control of my ideas, words, actions"
  • "I could make a plan of what needs to happen & act that plan. "
  • "If I come across more challenge of things, I don't know, but definitely I'll learn them."
  • "I can change i can make that change happen"


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